A grieving daughter says she misses her deceased mother so much that she plans to sprinkle her ashes on her Christmas dinner and consume her.
The Mirror reports that Debra Parsons, 41, of Kent England, has been grieving daily since her mother, Doreen Brown, passed away last May. Since Brown’s death, Parsons has reportedly reportedly been eating small spoonfuls of her mother’s ashes in an attempt to “help her cope.”
“It is the only thing that will get me through my first Christmas without mum,” Parsons said. “People might think I’m mad or that it’s not a very respectful thing to do but I just can’t stop myself. I see it as a positive thing – allowing her to be close to me and also involving her in the family day.”
In 1996, Parsons lost a son on Christmas Day after being born prematurely. She said she struggled daily to cope with his death, but when her mother passed away from a chest infection last year, she reached an all time low. Parsons said she was always close to her mother, and doesn’t want the bond to break.
“My mum and I had a really strong bond and one which could never be broken, even by death. She has been the one who has helped me through all the other ups and downs of my life and then suddenly she just wasn’t there any more…I was distraught.”
Parsons said she initially kept her mother’s ashes in a plastic bag in her bedroom or carried the ashes around with her to feel close with her mother. Apparently, it didn’t give her the closeness and closure she needed.
“I wanted to be with them all the time so I had them by my bed or with me around the house. Then I got a little box for them so I could have them on display but no matter what I did I just couldn’t get that feeling of closeness. I don’t know what made me do it the first time – it was just an urge. I can’t describe it.”
“I opened the box and licked my fingers and just dipped them into the powder.” Parsons continued. “Before I knew what I was doing they were in my mouth and the chalky, salty taste was comforting.”
The Guardian reports that eating a deceased humans ashes in the UK may be seen as revolting to many people, but it’s legal. Senior lecturer at Nottingham Trent University, Samantha Pegg, claimed that since there is “no precedence for murder,” it’s perfectly legal to consume human ashes as long as doesn’t involve killers who murder for the sake of cannibalism. The ruling came about in 1884 when a crew became shipwrecked without food. When a cabin boy became ill and passed away, they ate his remains to survive.
“There is no offence of cannibalism in our jurisdiction,” Pegg said.